Writer and blogger Toni Hammer is the idol of millions of moms around the world. She herself has two children, and her touching and honest stories about motherhood scatter into quotes. Today she wrote a letter to her daughter. This is a list of 13 things that Tony does not advise his daughter to do.
Toni became mega-popular after the article “You’re doing great!”, which appealed to all the moms who doubt whether they are doing enough for their children.
Her post today has already gained more than 6 thousand likes and the same number of reposts on Facebook, so there is no doubt that what it says has touched the hearts of thousands of women.
Never do these 13 things: a list for your daughter
Don’t apologize when someone bumps into you.
Don’t say, “I’m sorry you have to be such a thorn.” You are not a thorn. You are a person with your own thoughts and feelings that deserve respect.
Don’t make up a reason why you can’t go on a date with a guy if you just don’t feel like going out with him. You don’t have to explain anything to anyone. A simple “no thanks” will suffice.
Don’t think too much about what you eat in front of other people. If you are hungry, eat – and eat what you want. If you want pizza, don’t order a salad just because others might judge you. Order your damn pizza!
Don’t grow your hair out to please anyone but yourself.
Don’t wear a dress unless you feel like it.
Don’t stay at home unless you have someone to go out with. Take yourself for a walk. Get impressions in the company with you and for yourself.
Don’t smile just because someone told you to.
Don’t be afraid to laugh at your jokes.
Don’t say yes out of politeness. Say no, because this is your life.
Don’t hide your opinion. Speak up and speak loudly. You must be heard.
Don’t apologize for being you. Be bold, brave – and beautiful. Let your “I” be inviolable.
Tony writes that her list is entirely consistent with her upbringing system.
These “not” are designed not to limit – but on the contrary, to help the child open up and be himself in any situation. In life, my children will try to ban too much anyway, says the blogger. “Because my task is to instill in them the inner freedom to confront the world and know how to defend their personal boundaries.
Hundreds of mothers of girls – and more – left comments under Tony’s Facebook article.
“Thank you for articulating so perfectly all the things we absolutely need to say to our girls,” they write.
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