What do spouses who have relationship problems usually talk about? Psychotherapist Boris Novoderzhkin gave examples of conversations between spouses, which in most cases lead to misunderstanding and conflict in a couple.
About sex:
Are we going to have sex today?
– Well, if you want to…
– No, if you want to…
– Well, if you don’t want to…
– No, if you don’t want to…
And both go to bed, defiantly turning away from each other.
About love:
“Darling, do you love me?”
– What are you, a fool? Would I live with you if I didn’t love you?
And instead of “I love you” she hears “you’re a fool.”
About communication:
“You stopped talking to me completely!
Because you stopped listening to me!
And they talk until the morning about the fact that they stopped communicating with each other.
About problems:
I think it’s time for us to go to a psychologist.
“You’re in trouble, here you go.” I have no problems.
And she goes to a psychologist, and he has problems.
About kids:
“You don’t care about kids at all!”
– And you bring them up in such a way that it would be better not to bring them up at all!
And while the parents are arguing, the children are happy that they are finally left alone.
About work:
— I get tired at work.
And others are still making money.
– I can’t work at all.
– I don’t need your money.
And he continues to work, and she complains about the lack of money.
About male attention:
– Why are you not paying attention to me?
What exactly do you want from me?
— Already nothing!
And she takes offense at his inattention, and he finally ceases to understand what she wants from him.
On female jealousy:
“You’re always looking at other women!”
– I’m not looking at anyone!
And he turns away from her, and she continues to believe that he is looking at other women.
About the stamp in the passport:
– I’m tired of living in a civil marriage, I want a normal family!
– The stamp in the passport is a pure formality. I don’t sign with you just because you don’t understand it.
And he is surprised by the female logic, but she is not surprised by the male.
About divorce:
– I will divorce you!
“Stop blackmailing me!”
And everyone is angry that his words are not taken seriously.
About Consent:
You never agree with me on anything!
You never agree with me on anything!
And they cannot even agree that they never agree with each other on anything.
On the meaning of life:
— Darling, what do you think is the meaning of life?
“I don’t have time to ask myself such questions, I don’t have time to do the housework …
And he gets himself a mistress, and she continues to fail at the housework.
About everything:
– I’ve had enough!
“Calm down…
” “Your “calm down” got me the most!!!
And she continues to reassure them, and he continues to get angry.
about nothing:
– I’m not to blame for anything!
“Are you saying that it’s my fault?”
Don’t blame me for things I didn’t say!
“Don’t you notice, you just said yourself that I want to accuse you of something?!
